Archive for November 2017

As a believer you’re not supposed to live your life subject to any demonic spirit or better yet… your own wrong decisions. God wants to restore you into righteousness.. or the right way (His way) of doing things. But it takes a process when you have found yourself amidst a tangled web of your own choices. God wants you to live free from being a victim of the actions of others, free from a victim mindset, and free to make the RIGHT choices for your life.

When it comes to relationships it is so difficult to gauge what is a good one and what is not. If you have sound leaders around you, it would be good to listen to those who have your best interest at heart. This will help you to see beyond emotional attachments that can form and blind you ESPECIALLY IF you are like I used to be and you had a history of making wrong choices. I assure you there’s hope on the other side because of the wisdom you will gain in doing things right. It will cause you to help others in ways you only DREAMED. You can also turn your greatest weaknesses and sorrows into a place that will truly bless the world around you… one person at a time!

So when breaking a soul tie:

1. REALIZE it’s an unhealthy, unfruitful and ungodly relationship. Acknowledge that to yourself.

2. DECLARE verbally that you renounce and break agreement/ covenant with the toxic soul tie between you and _____________. I take back my soul (intellect, will, and emotions). My soul belongs to me. I break every promise spoken and plans made in the name of Jesus. I bless them as they go.

3. ASK THE FATHER for guidance in how to maintain your deliverance. For example: Do you live with them, have kids (not adult ones) with them? Do they pay your bills? Are you socially or financially tied to them? Be determined to make some changes.

4. GET GODLY COUNSEL on how to disconnect from the ungodly system that upholds your life in the natural sense. Don’t trust your own wisdom, you have mislead yourself in this and you are coming out of deception. You need GODLY advice.

5. STOP LYING. Don’t lie to yourself or those walking with you in this season to save face. Be honest. Are you in ministry? Do you need to sit down for a season to heal, restore and regroup? Tell those with you the truth about how you are feeling and what you were and may still want to do.

6. SET BOUNDARIES. Breaking off means not entertaining this person anymore. Don’t deceive yourself into thinking that you can be around them and do things for them and not be effected. If you have a younger child and NEED to stay in contact, do so but keep it about the child. Keep it brief. Text or email when you can about things that are happening. YOU have no reason to hang out as a “family” when you KNOW it will lead you back into bondage. There is more on this but we won’t go any deeper at the moment. I suggest reading Buondaries by Townsend and Cloud.

7. STAY IN YOUR WORD AND… increase your worship (intimacy with God) and prayer life. Really talk to God and let Him into all the areas you’ve tried to manage on your own. It is life to you and will sustain you!!!! Increase your spiritual disciplines.

8. BEWARE OF TRICKS. The person usually ALMOST ALWAYS will try to come back. OR MAYBE that person is you. They will go between being very nice or being very angry or mean… even threatening you. They know what draws you so they will appeal to that. If you need money they will bring it, if you wanted to get married they will say let’s move in together or ok we can get married. When you know that’s not a good idea. You have to come to the end of yourself and stand with God and refuse to live in bondage! The nice/ mean tactic is what happens when someone has lost control, especially demonic control. The enemy is looking for a way back in. Don’t fall for it.

9. YOU ARE IN WARFARE AT THIS POINT. Stay on alert and keep your mindset fast in this season. Stop going back and forth between two opinions. Stay in agreement with God and fight your way out. THIS IS WHERE PEOPLE FALL. They get free, they kicked the person out. They got lose but they stopped fighting and stopped being wise to the WARFARE they are in. And THEY GO BACK! Don’t let that be you!

10. THEY COME BACK IN MANY FORMS. For me… I found other demonic souls ties to fill the voids. Never knowingly. But I hadn’t done #10 so I found myself back in crazy emotionally painful situations. It wasn’t the same person every time, but it was a similar one.. or worse one.

11. HEAL AND BE BY YOURSELF FOR A WHILE. I am not speaking about isolation. Unless you have a slew of unhealthy relationships around you and you need to purge your address book (remember those?). I mean it’s ok to not have the void filled. You need time to heal, get strong and learn to allow God to fill those places that allowed you to get into a relationship(s) like that in the first place.

Get rid of those demonic ties. Think about… who you are thinking about? Some of you right now have a person or two in mind. It might even be a bad friendship, an Ex etc.

Inbox me if you need scriptures to help you through the process if this is something you are going through.

I remember hearing of soul ties when I was much younger but didn’t understand much about them. Back then God spoke to me and explained what they were, how they worked and how the enemy uses them. One thing I know for sure is that the enemy doesn’t create a soul tie. WE DO! But our enemy loves to influence and infect them.

A soul tie happens through physical or emotional intimacy…. even through infatuation. It can be GREAT in a healthy marriage, friendship, parental or child relationships. Remember David and Jonathan in their covenant friendship? (See 1 Samuel 18).

But there are those relationships that are not healthy. It can feel like love or desperation for that person. Always feeling like you need their love, protection, support, company etc… it’s a relationship many times rooted in idolatry of some sort, typically unknown to the person. They may be someone you always go back to either physically or mentally.

Over the years I’ve heard many people say they “will always love them or be in love with them because this was my first this or that”. This may be a good indication that it’s an unhealthy demonic soul tie. It is a delusion that has blinded many. I was once one of those people. However, early on God taught me about them and I grew a strong conviction concerning them.

Is it always demonic? I would say no, but if it’s definitely a bondage situation then yes it can be demonic. Now if you’re married, there’s other posts for that. This blog post isn’t license to get divorced. But if you opened yourself up to an unhealthy relationship… it’s not that the enemy made you do it, he may have influenced it.  By your own authority you decided to become a party to it. And if you begin to sin or fall into bondage, that’s when this becomes a demonic soul tie. You’re operating on his turf, by his rules etc. And the enemy loves to begin operating inside of things that are rooted outside of God’s will. Now that we established that, please read on. There’s more.

When I broke up from someone many many years ago it hurt sooooo bad. I heard the Lord whisper to me that it wasn’t true love that I experienced. It was a soul tie. When the tie disconnects, you can sometimes physically feel the pain of the disconnection. I kept my eyes on God and resisted calling this person. I resisted but I hurt so bad that all I could do was curl up in a ball. The Lord said that some of the pain would subside in a few days. And it did… I was still vulnerable but after a week or so I could think more clearly.

I remember how demonically influenced that relationship was and I wanted true freedom. When you want real freedom you DON’T make excuses for yourself and you DON’T make excuses for the other person. Each party typically was equally wrong even if you felt like the victim. Having a relationship outside of God is always a bad idea. But you know what is worse? A relationship that LOOKS like it has God potential. That is the most deceptive type and again… the enemy loves to ride along on the sin WE create. This is how it becomes even more twisted of a soul tie. So yes a spirit of deception was there but I invited it in. Not the other person (though they were very deceptive). I… like Eve disobeyed the One I had covenant with…. my REAL first love… my FIRST husband… The Father. See… we will act like this is the love of our lives when in our heart and the back of our minds we know it is destructive but we’re hoping God will bless it and turn it around anyway! When you ignore Him and proceed with the relationship it’s on you to decide you no longer want to live under your own deception.
Because it is a demonic soul tie, the demonic spirits they are subject to… you are also. You will either be enticed or tormented by them.

This is what I decided in my early twenties. I was a Minister and realized I was under deception. I didn’t want to minister under a deceived mindset, so I called my Pastor to tell him everything and I sat myself down. My Pastor decided how long that would be. All I wanted was to truly be free and to have the man of God that GOD wanted in my life. This was about 20 years ago.

In part 2 we will discuss how to actually break a Soul Tie.

Love you all!
—April Moore

Originally (partially) published Nov 2016

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