A Hard Look At Rejection
The Rejection spirit can cause us to become self centered. We want friends but we neglect or inconsistently TRY to show ourselves friendly. Should people reach out to you? Sure! But is the kingdom only about what you get? Let me explain what I mean. And no I’m not throwing slugs if this applies to you. In fact if it does I likely don’t know it. This happens ALOT and the kingdom is infinitely larger than either me or you. I’m merely exploring the other side and encouraging those of us that have this issue to think deeper and take responsibility for OUR lives. Take charge and overcome hindrances and ENJOY good friendships.
1. If we miss church or haven’t been coming… why do we only feel valued if certain people call or check on you?
2. Why is it only about us and we either aren’t or we’re rarely concerned about other people that may not be there. Why can’t you reach out to others too… genuinely. Or do people always have to approach you? Do YOU notice if they aren’t there?
Trust me… no slugs… just want us better… healed in our mindsets.
3. Why do we hold others responsible for seeing our pain and approaching us? Truth is your friend… your boss… ministry leader.. or Pastor may be consumed with the needs of others who actually approached them with their issues (and think of ALL the people they serve with issues). Why do others have to play a God role? Go to them every time you need help… and say…. help! And for most people… their responsibility is not to coddle your pain. It’s to teach you how to overcome while going through. This isn’t Bible but it’s true… the squeaky wheel gets the oil.
– Should we be sensitive to our sister and brother? Yes!
– Should we check on each other? Yes!
But just know that the one you were expecting to call…. could have been hurting too…. did you see THEM?
Luke 6:31 says, Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Proverbs 18:24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Basically Proverbs is saying… you can’t even have friends unless you’re friendly too. I’m socially awkward. Many don’t know that because I work hard at overcoming it. I use laughter as a tool. But you have a niche… keep trying and value those one or two that are such good friends that are like family. I know an amazing woman that wanted to get to know her church members so she threw a party (these folks loved to hang out). She’s great at hosting so she used her creative gifts. Should it have come to that? Maybe not… but she took responsibility for her own space and refused to not connect. It was very hard. But hey… the Greater One lives in us.
Be persistent and don’t give up trying… trust me you aren’t the only one in the room feeling isolated. Refuse it, overcome. You are a force to be reckoned with!
Feel free to like and comment about how you may have overcome this barrier. It may help someone!!!????